I have been single for a while now, over a year. But I have yet to really get back out there into the dating world. While I have been experiencing the Joy’s of being single, I one day want to experience the Joy’s of Marriage and Motherhood. But one step at a time, first things first, get back out in the dating world.
I have been a part of the dating seen in the past and not had the best experiences. A few of my most not winning (in my Charlie Sheen voice) experiences include long term boyfriend having a baby with someone else, having my date get arrested during a routine traffic stop because of a pre-existing warrant, and discovering that I was the other woman. Needless to say dating has not always been so much fun.
However, I am not so scarred or jaded that I don’t believe that good men are still out there. And I am ready to meet one, or two, or a few of them. LOL The problem is past experiences have made me a little afraid and somewhat soured me on dating in general. I have been known to say “I hate dating”!!! And I wonder why I’m not having any dates???
Obviously an attitude adjustment is in order. How about from this point on I never utter the phrase “I hate dating” again? How about instead I discover the Joy of dating??? 🙂
So what are your best tips for a Joyful dating experience?
I met my husband at work, which I don't recommend. Mixing work and dating added too much stress to my already stressful life. The only good thing was we were friends for a long time before we started dating. I agree with Lisa – do things you like.
I don't have much advice except get out and do things you like and you'll find someone with similiar interests.
I have no good advise for you. I was single for 4 years with out a single date the whole time. I had resigned myself to being the "spinster" sister that took care of my aging parents. Then my friend hooked me up with her ex husband….so I guess my advise is, do you have any friends that are divorced lol.
Being that you an active gal, you should start with meeting a guy into some of the activities that you are involved in. And if that doesn't jump start your dating life, then you have to put yourself out there. I'm not referring to going out to a club and looking for a guy, but I mean spiritually, mentally and physically. I have a bunch of friends who claim they are ready to settle down and meet the one, but only have one idea of what their man should be. Being someone who used to do that, I missed out on so many wonderful experiences. The moment I stop deciding on what kind of guy I wanted, I got the kind of guy I needed.
Great guys come in all types and at least expecting moments. So just remember how wonderful you and have go out there and have fun!!!
It's been a long time since I was on the dating scene but my son and his friends who date tell me stuff all the time (they're in their mid to late 20's. They always keep it casual- at first.
Coffee and some conversation. Lunch at a cafe that type of thing on a Saturday afternoon or Sunday after church.
Nothing lengthy just in case there is nothing to talk about or an uncomfortable situation. Then they work up to something more if the chemistry is there.
And if it doesn't work out? There wasn't a lot of time or money invested and they usually end up gaining a friend in the process.