Chasing Joy

Life Lessons: Feelings vs. Reality

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Your outfit for today is hanging neatly on your closet door. You put it on and look in the mirror. What happened??? It looked so nice on the hanger but looks awful on your body. So you go to your back up outfit. But the result is the same. Outfit on hanger = nice, outfit on your body = awful. On to the third outfit, but the third time is not the charm. This outfit is not right either. But how can this be? These are not new items. You have worn them before and they looked great. You’ve not gone up or down in your weight and the washing machine has not turned into an evil clothes destroying monster. How can everything you pull out of your closet suddenly look so awful when you put it on??? Oh well, you decide to head on out into the world despite your wardrobe turning against you. And what happens next… You get a compliment from a friend or co-worker saying how nice you look today.

We’ve all had days like this. (If you haven’t you are very fortunate.) Days where no matter what we put on we just don’t feel attractive or our best. Then we surprisingly get a compliment. Sadly often even after the complement we are still not convinced and continue on feeling uncomfortable in our own skin.

Recently I was talking to another woman about this. She happens to be a therapist and made an excellent point. She said that we have to remind ourselves that our feelings are just that A FEELING and feelings often do not represent reality. We should acknowledge the feeling and then let it pass. The same way you can be feeling good one minute and then something happen and you feel bad; allow the opposite to happen. If you feel bad about yourself acknowledge it is a feeling, but don’t dwell on it and then give time to let the feeling pass.

So, If you know you have on a nice, neat, coordinated outfit, your hair is presentable, teeth are brushed and you basically have yourself together and you still feeling unattractive just remind yourself that it is JUST A FEELING and that it will pass. Life Lesson: Do not mistake the negative feelings we sometimes have about ourselves as fact. Feelings are often Just Feeling don’t let them cast shadows on your Joy. Don’t confuse Negativity with your Reality. Create your Reality on a Canvas of Joy.
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Comments

  2. #FBF …I did this very exact thing the other day…I had worn the tshirt one time before and I was on the fence about it and then I wore it again this week and I was like nooooooooo; I did think it looked great in the store when I bought a few weeks ago :/ Not sure what happened from the time I bought til when I got home lol But you're right they are feelings that pass…now what to wear for tomorrow 🙂

  4. Great post! Thanks for letting us know we have the victory even w our emotions
    Evie730

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