Chasing Joy

Are You Your Own Biggest Fan???

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Me & the Lovely Models Jese (left) & Collene (center)

I just came in from one of the best Sunday Afternoons that I’ve had in a long time. Today I attended Real Women Have Curves: Fashion Tips for the Full-Figured Fashionista at the lovely BellaNoir Boutique in Philly. I was already planning to write a blog post sharing what I learned at this event. What I had not planned or expected was to leave the event super excited to tell you all how inspired, encouraged, and empowered I felt.

The class was structured to cover the different body types and how to best dress them for optimum hotness. We also were to hear from two plus sized models about undergarments, shape wear, self-esteem and loving yourself. I would describe the class structure as a self-esteem boost and self love lesson emphasizing how to be your Own Biggest Fan and look the part. As we discussed Beyonce performing in quadruple layers of spanx, strawberry, pear, and apple body shapes, along with the fashion disaster that is the uniboobs (all of which I’ll get into later) the overall topic of self acceptance and loving one’s self was on going.

The class was interactive and we all went around the room sharing what our favorite and least favorite body parts were. Both of the models, Jese Gary, and Colleen Stovall of Short Curvy Fierce emphasized knowing what you feel your best features are and showcasing them. If you love your girls then put them out there. Not in the girls gone wild lift your top kind of way. But in the just the right amount of cleavage, jewelry and flattering top that makes you feel like a million bucks, kind of way. If you feel great about how you look then no one else can tell you any different. Become your Own Biggest Fan.

When Jese said she was her Own Biggest Fan, I had to ask myself, Am I My Own Biggest Fan??? Unfortunately, answering honestly, I have to say No. When I have talked about losing my dad I have often said that I have lost my biggest fan. My dad was my biggest fan, not because he was any more supportive or encouraging than my mom, he was just louder. A Lot louder LOL! 🙂 I was very blessed to have one of those dads who made sure that I always felt beautiful, smart, and capable of just about anything. So now it is time for me to step up to the plate, take advantage of that awesome foundation of support, encouragement, and praise and become My Own Biggest Fan.

Colleen spoke about being confident in who you are and loving yourself and how life is to short to not enjoy it. Some people naturally have that confidence while other come into it a little later. Colleen confidence has taken her from being camera shy to a plus sized model. She has become her Own Biggest Fan and is excited to share her beauty in print and on the runway.

While we talked of self acceptance and putting our best foot, leg, or whatever your favorite feature is forward we also talked about being healthy. As we acknowledge that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and that not everyone was meant to be a size 4 we were reminded that health is the important thing. Not only looking our best, but feeling our best and having mobility are top priority. It all comes down to what’s on the inside, inside of our bodies in terms of health and inside of our minds regarding confidence and self esteem.

So, before I share with you all of the fashion tips I learned about different body types and how to best dress them for optimum hotness, tell me Are you Your Own Biggest Fan???

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Comments

  2. My parents are probably my biggest fans, but I should work on becoming my own too. I will admit my mom will listen to any story of mine, no matter how dull.
    I do sometimes try to give myself advice as if I were a friend. Sometimes I can be too hard on myself, when I wouldn't treat a friend that way.

  3. I think I am. How can you live a happy and successful life without being your own biggest fan? Though at times I feel shitty, I'm always getting over it.

  4. *hello* I met you at the event yesterday. (I sat to the right of you). Your blog is really wonderful!

    I am my own biggest fan and becoming my own biggest stan lol.

    I started my own curvy blog because after leaving BellaNor Sunday I really felt curvy empowered. I mentioned you and your blog. Just wanted to let you know.

    http://chublovers.blogspot.com/

  5. Umm Well I am going to have to say NO to that. Now if you asked if I was my biggest CRITIC then yes but fan NO. How do I work on that? Now that is a Blog topic Chasing Joy 🙂

    • Oh no don't be your biggest critic. No negative self-talk remember!!! You are not alone in not being your own biggest Fan. I will be working on it myself so I'm sure there will future posts coming.

  6. I cannot say I am my own biggest fan. I was raised to believe that a high opinion of oneself means an over inflated ego and a sense of vanity that others do not want to be around. It sounds terrible, I know, but I just do not want to be like that. I would rather invest my time in lifting up others…not myself. 🙂

    I hope that makes sense.

    • Joyness yes, your point of view does make sense. I'm not advocating people have over inflated egos or be vain. I just think we should all really love ourselves and see ourselves as great beautiful people. Not perfect or better than others. Just really feel good about ourselves so that we can be confident and and maybe even feel more qualified to lift others up 🙂

  7. I am my biggest fan. However, I am with Lisa about 'tooting my own horn'. The challenge is not appearing to be arrogant. I know the things I am great at; just like I know my shortcomings. I try to keep a healthy balance.

  9. What an interesting question. I would have to say no. I'm not one for touting my own horn though I am getting better at it as I get older. I think women have a harder time with it then men, no?

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