Does joy depend on our ability to let things go? The more I Chase Joy the more I find myself realizing I have to let go of old ideas and ways of thinking.
My latest realization comes after spending two evenings with two different groups of people and leaving both groups feeling likeI did not fit in. Now I won’t go so far as to sayI felt like i didn’t belong. I just didn’t click and connect with the groups in the way that I wanted or expected. Then I started to feel a little sorry for myself wondering why I didn’t connect to the rest of the group like everyone else, and where are my people, the ones that I will have a deep and stong connection with.
A side effect of blogging about happiness is becoming introspective. After the whoa is me, I don’t fit in thoughts settled, I started to question them. Why do I assume that I was the only one who felt like they did not fit in? Maybe everyone felt that way. I mean we are all so different in our experiences, thoughts, and beliefs it makes more sense that we would not fit in. Maybe I am doing myself a disservice by expecting some kind of feel good, long lost best friend, kindred spirit type of feeling that obly exists when written into TV or film scripts.
I guess this expectation and desire for deep and meaningful connections with everyone is something I need to let go of. There is something peaceful about accepting situations as they are without layering them with expectations and disappointment.
Maybe we find joy when we let go of expectations.
Do you ever feel like you don’t fit in? What about the opposite? Have you ever experienced fitting in so well with a group that you felt like these are my people?
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Often my people come one at a time rather than in groups, maybe because I am an introvert. I had a knitting group where I felt among my people, partly because if I wanted to knit, and not talk, everyone was ok with it. Also, when I first started making art, I joined a craft guild, and it was awesome to meet others who