I was checking out some of my fellow bloggers’ posts and saw a great quote on Contemporary Coach Deidre L. Knight’s page about forgiveness. I felt the need to comment on her post and obviously felt the need to copy my response on my here. I wanted to share my thoughts on forgiveness with you. Here is the definition of forgiveness from the Merriam Webster Dictionary – to give up resentment of or claim to requital for , to grant relief from payment of , to cease to feel resentment against (an offender) : pardon I think refusing to forgive others and even ourselves is blocking us from capturing lots and lots of Joy.
Here is my comment on Contemporary Coach Deidre L. Knight’s post:
I like “A healed memory is not a deleted memory”. I agree that forgiveness does not mean you forget. Once you have been wronged by someone or even yourself you cannot pretend it did not happen. But you can decide not to punish yourself or the other person. You can decide to be kind to the guilty party despite the wrong doing especially if the guilty party is yourself. You can accept the fact that you have been hurt and that it may take a while to heal but you can decide to focus on yourself, your own happiness, your own Joy, instead of any feelings of anger or revenge. This is what forgiveness is. Accepting that you have been hurt and deciding not to react with revenge or dwell on negative feelings toward the person who hurt you but to instead treat that person with kindness and respect. Forgiveness is not a feeling. It is a decision to respond positively even if it takes a while for your feelings to catch up with your actions. Don’t let negativity, anger, revenge stand in the way of your Joy. Learn to forgive, especially when the person needing forgiveness is yourself.
Potong Pasir MRT at the doorstep, residents can easily
access almost to any destination through.
the interlace condo
I'm a believer in forgiveness, as hanging on to a grudge creates so much negativity and life is too short. None of us is perfect and sometimes things will happen. So it may not always be easy and you might not forget but forgiveness is more beneficial to our well being, in the grand scheme of things.
Supporting you in getting your fitness and nutrition back on track
Lisa Buben says
Oh yes, forgiveness is key to living a more productive and happy life. Too many people hang on to grudges that hold them back.
Absolutely forgiveness is essential to joy. Joy cannot truly and fully happen without forgiveness. And I think a lot of people struggle with fully forgiving, which results in a struggle for authentic joy.
it's great to "BE" ™ says
I believe Forgiveness brings Peace… but we may still be Joyful. I once heard you can define forgiveness if 1. you are willing to pray for that person and 2. you show them the minimal act of kindness. I had a situation where I needed to forgive someone who wronged me in business, and even now I will never forget what he did, but I think through forgiveness I am at least at peace with it. And sometimes my prayer is that he realizes how badly he wronged me and sends me a refund… not sure if thats a good enough prayer, but for now it works for me.