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Dating Advice for a Joyful Relationship from Expert Paul Carrick Brunson

October 16, 2012 |

Me and Paul Carrick Brunson after he signed my book.

About my weekend 🙂 Yesterday I told you about how my weekend was good and that I’d tell you about it later. Well it’s later. Saturday and Sunday I did blog related stuff that I’ll tell you about in future posts (I know, still making you wait 🙂 But on Friday I did something that was not blog related at all. It had to do with my love life or should I say my desire to have one LOL.

On Friday I went to a seminar and book signing for the only male black matchmaker that I know of, Mr. Paul Carrick Brunson. I first saw Paul on the Dr. Drew Show, Life Changers. He seemed very genuine. He was offering practical advice on dating to an audience made up of a lot of black people. You hardly ever see that on TV. He was also debunking some of the myths about love and relationships amongst black people including emphasizing that Black women are not bitter. I liked him and started following him on twitter. On two separate occasions I tweeted him with questions and he replied within a couple hours. The 2nd tweet I sent him was asking when he’d be bringing his dating/relationship expertise to Philly. His response was “Next Week” along with a link to the website for the It’s complicated tour. So that is how I ended up at VII Luxe Lounge on Friday night.

I was not sure what to expect of the evening. Initially I thought it would be like the dating mixer event that was shown on Dr. Drew’s show. Then after reading the website I thought it would be more of a seminar. It was a combination of both. The evening started off like a typical happy hour. Doors opened at 6 pm to drinks, wings, music and mingling. After some vocalizing by an up and coming artist, who’s name I did not catch, PCB (Paul Carrick Brunson) graced the stage.

Paul Carrick Brunson doing his thing.

His seminar was sort of a preview/walk through of his book It’s Complicated But Doesn’t Have to Be. He kept it really interactive with lots of audience participation. There was lots of laughing and even some hooting and hollering. A possible love connection was made, not for me, but for the cute couple who volunteered to go on stage for one of the exercises.

Here is a list of highlights from PCB’s presentation that I hope to delve deeper into in his book:

During a survey, the feature that the majority of women all said they wanted In a man was height. Over 6 feet to be exact. I have to include myself in that group, though I’m not counting shorter guys out.
Your chances for a long lasting relationship are greatly increased if you meet these four criteria: common values, in line with non-negotiables, complementary (not matching) personality types, and attraction. Non-negotiables are the things you won’t compromise on. Attention Mr. Future Joy Chaser, my non-negotiables are must believe in God and Jesus (yes both) and must want children. Values would include things like work ethic, iimportance of family, adventure, generosity, friendship, dependability, etc. Personality types need to mesh well and not be the same. Think of the arguments two people who both need to be right would have. Or think of the messy house that two laid back, I’ll get to it later, types would have. Attraction goes without saying. An interesting fact PCB shared was that studies show that men will describe a woman as hot if her waist is 70% smaller than her hips. Excuse me while I find my measuring tape 🙂 I think meeting the first three criteria is what keeps you together as you get older and looks start to fade. Maybe being solid in those three areas is what makes the attraction last.
3 tips for ladies approaching a man are keep it short don’t unsell yourself, be confident, and have swag (have your look together). For me this was the most valuable part of the night. If you remember from my post talking about how I was not feeling too confident, approaching men has not been my strong point. There was some roll play that showed how to do it. It was funny but the best part was at the end the men who’d volunteered to participate told us what they felt the woment did best.
Don’t think that if you have experienced love once you’ll never experience it again. Love can happen again. Increase your social circle and be open to the possibilities. Your Mr. or Mrs. Right is likely less than 5 degrees of separation away. At least I hope my Mr. Joy Chaser is that close 🙂

As I read through PCB’s book I’ll share any other tips that I ll attempt to put into practice. Have you read the book? I know a lot of you Joy Chasers are married. What are your tips for awesome single girls, like me who are looking for their Mr. Awesome Single Guy?

Flashback Friday: Time For Joy

September 21, 2012 |

Happy Friday! I am excited because I am now less than a week away from my vacation from work and trip to Las Vegas to party with friends and attend the blog conference Blogalicious.

I’m sure this week coming will at times feel like it is both flying as I try to get things done before the trip, and dragging as I anxiously await all the fun that lies ahead. This Friday’s Flashback, Time for Joy, is a reminder that regardless of my feelings time passes at the same rate so it is up to me to use it wisely.

If this is your first Flashback here is the deal. Flashback Friday is a great way to re-discover our earlier works and discover some new blogs. Flashback Friday is where we Flashback to our older blog posts and give them new life through the power of the linky! Just pick out your link and add it below. You can also post a link to your Flashback post on the Chasing Joy Facebook Page. Use hashtags #FBF or #FlashbackFriday on twitter to advertise your Flashback post.

You can pick out any post you want for the linky. It does not have to be related to the topic of my link. The choice is yours 🙂

Add your link below and be sure to check out AT LEAST TWO other Flashback posts. I suggest the two listed before your post to make it easy. Please leave a comment saying why you selected your Flashback post and what you thought about the other Flashback posts. I’m looking forward to reading all of your Flashbacks.

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**Also invite some of your blogging buddies to join the Linky too!
***Oh, and DON’T FORGET TO VOTE FOR ME for a Black Weblog Award!!***

Flashback Friday: Joyless Jobs & the Girlfriend’s Guide to Goals

August 10, 2012 |

Happy Friday!!! This was a fast week for me. What about you? This weeks flashback post is perfect for a Friday. I know you are sitting there at work watching the clock waiting for quitting time. Well as you go into your weekend be grateful you won’t be returning to any of these Joyless Jobs on Monday.

If for some unfortunate reason you will be returning to one of those unfortunate Joyless Jobs maybe it’s time to make finding a new job one of your main goals. Not sure how to set a goal? Check out my August Girlfriendology post, the Girlfriend’s Guide to Goals and learn all about how to set goals.

If this is your first Flashback here is the deal. Flashback Friday is where we Flashback to our older blog posts and link up! You can also post a link to your Flashback post on the Chasing Joy Facebook Page. Flashback Friday is a great way to rediscover our earlier works and discover some new blogs. Just pick out your link and add it below. Use hashtags #FBF or #FlashbackFriday on twitter to advertise your Flashback post.

Add your link below and be sure to check out AT LEAST TWO other Flashback posts. I suggest the two listed before your post to make it easy. Please leave a comment saying why you selected your Flashback post and what you thought about the other Flashback posts. I’m looking forward to reading all of your Flashbacks.

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**Also invite some of your blogging buddies to join the Linky too!
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Friends + Castle + Wine = Joy

July 24, 2012 |

About a week ago I had the privilege of visiting a castle. I’d never been to a castle before and it was great. The castle was impressive and too big for me to fit it all in one photo. This was no ordinary castle though. It was was located in Eriwanna, PA smack in the middle of a winery, Sand Castle Winery!

A copule of days before I visited the winery I received a tweet from my twitter friend Jese Gary. (You may remember that Jese was one of the models dropping all kinds of knowledge at the Full Figured Fashionista Class where I learned to be my own biggest fan.) Jese’s tweet was inviting me to hang out with her at Sand Castle Winery for their annual Pig Roast. After looking up the Winery and discovering it was only about an hour outside of Philly I tweeted back that I’d be there.

I’d never been to Erwinna so I recruited one of my girlfriends to come along and enjoy some wine. We set out on a slightly raining afternoon that turned into a gorgeously sunny afternoon. We had an absolutely fabulous time.

I spotted Jese as soon as we got there. We were then quickly invited to enjoy our glass of wine and have lunch. The $25 fee to attend the Pig Roast included a lunch of you guessed it, roasted pork, along with potato salad, baked beans, rolls, and fruit salad, along with one glass of wine and a tasting of 12 different Sand Castle Wines. We also got to keep our wine tasting glasses as souvenirs.

Now as a rule I do not like wine. On more than one occasion I have had to concentrate super hard on not grimacing at the taste of wine when drinking in public. This is the main reason I was hype about the tasting. What better way to find some that I might actually like? Well I lucked out, or I should say Sand Castle lucked out because I liked 4 of the 12 wines we tasted and I purchased all four.

My favorite of the four was the one that I’d had with my lunch. Since I do not know much about wine I asked the wine steward, the sommelier, to give me the sweetest thing they had. He poured me a glass of the “mangria” they’d made with Claret. It was so good. To make the “mangria” (so named because it is so easy a man could make it) you pour the Claret over sliced oranges. They don’t even have to be peeled, just wash and remove the little sticker. I purchased 2 bottles of the Claret one for me and one for a co-worker/friend.

My 2nd favorite wine was the Alpine Spice. When this wine was described to me I did not think I’d like it. It is filled with autumn spices. You can smell this wine in the Castle. It reminds you of pumpkin or apple pie. I did not think I’d like it because I’m not a big spice fan. Boy was I wrong. This wine was really good too. The big plus with this wine is you can serve it chilled or warm. The sommelier said that the Alpine Spice wine is also really great over vanilla ice cream. I can’t wait to try this.

The other two wines I purchased were Cuvee Blush and Johannisberg Riesling Late Harvest 2008. These two were tied for my 3rd choices. They were also sweet as I only like sweet wines. The Johannisberg Riesling comes in a smaller bottle. It is a sipping wine that you drink from a little cordial glass. (those tiny wine glasses). The Cuvee Blush has a really unique hidden talent. During the tasting we were given a few things to eat (cashews, chocolates, and dried wasabi peas) to see how the flavor of the wine changed with different foods. We were given the wasabi peas to try with the Cuvee. We chewed the wasabi and before swallowing we sip the Cuvee Blush. All of the heat from the wasabi disappeared. Instead we could taste the flavor of popcorn. Isn’t that neat. Cuvee Blush’s hidden talent is that it kills the heat from spicy foods.

We had such a good time at the winery. We were able to walk around the winery a bit and even checked out an artist who’s work was on display in one of the rooms up stairs. I loved the work but it was out of my price range. All of the people who worked there were so friendly. I thought wow, this is what it’s like to work where everyone likes there job. Then I though oh maybe this is what it’s like to work where everyone is drinking wine while they work LOL.

What a great day that was. I had great company going to and from the winery with my girlfriend. I got to hang out with Jese and hear about what’s happening with her luxury charity events (follow Luxegiving to learn more). Despite my normal dislike of wine I tried some new ones and found 4 that I liked. Plus I got to go to a real life castle.

Find out more about Sand Castle Winery on http://www.sandcastlewinery.com/. You can also follow them on twitter https://twitter.com/SandCastleWine and check out there facebook page. Sand Castle did not sponsor or pay for this post in any way.

If there is something you don’t like to eat or drink would you go to a tasting to explore a different variety or would you steer clear???

Chasing Joy’s Tips From Fashionista Class (part 1)

May 10, 2012 |

Now that we have all decided to be our own Biggest Fan we need to look the part. While what on the inside matters way more than what’s on the outside, the outside is important too. I know I feel better when I look better and feel great when I think I look great. Notice I said I. I’m not talking about pleasing others or following trends or trying to measure up to some sort of ideal. I’m talking about deciding that I am my own biggest fan and I want to feel great and look my best. So how do we do that?

That was the point of the Full Figured Fashionista Class held at BellaNor Boutique. If you read my post from earlier this week, Are You Your Own Biggest Fan, I know you are anxiously awaiting the tips and pointers I picked up at BellaNor’s. So here goes:

Shape wear!!!!
Go get some! Shape wear is for all sizes and comes in all sizes. It is not just for fuller figures. Most of us could benefit from a tighter look. Now I’m not talking about hard core girdles or corsets or things that are uncomfortable. I’m talking about the kinds you can get a most department stores and even target that are designed to smooth you out and hide the lumps and bumps you don’t want to show while lifting the ones that you do want to show. I personally have used Spanx and the Assets brands. Make sure you buy it in your actual size. Buying it in a smaller size will be counterproductive as the shape wear will give you bulges instead of smoothing things out. To maintain your shape wear do not fully dry your shape wear in the dryer after washing it. Treat it as you would bras and hosiery to get longer life. Don’t be afraid to wear it every day. Buy the correct size and the brand that you find most comfortable so that you can wear it daily. I always considered shape ware something to put on under that special dress. It never occurred to me to wear it on a regular. Now I’m thinking why wouldn’t I want a smooth silhouette all the time???

Get Fitted!!!
Go and get a proper bra fitting. Clothes often will not look right if you have on the wrong bra because they are cut with the expectation that your boobs will be in line with the middle of your arm. Most women are wearing the wrong size. Here are a few ways to tell if you wearing the wrong size. When you look in the mirror standing sideways does your bra have a see saw effect? Meaning is the back of the bra higher than the front. Your bra should be even in the front and back. When you take your straps down your boobs should not fall down with it. The shoulder straps should not be the main support of the bra. Lastly you should not have a uni-boob. Each breast should be fully in the cup and the middle of the bra should be flush against your skin, giving you two separate boobs and not one uni-boob. Two is better than one 🙂

Don’t Postpone The Pretty!!!
Chanea (the lovely owner of BellaNor) says she gets many women coming into the shop saying “oh I’m not buying any clothes because I’m losing weight”. If you are in the process of losing weight or getting in shape or experiencing any other type of transition phase don’t deprive yourself of nice fitting garments. Looking and feeling your best should not have a size prerequisite to it. Also, looking in the mirror and liking what you see during the weight loss process can be a huge motivator to keep up the good work. I’m not saying break the bank. Get just a few pieces in your current smaller size that will help you look your best even if you are not at your goal.

Wow! I really got a lot out of this class. So much so that I’m going to break now and pick this up a little later with more tips. I don’t want you to get bored before I get to the good stuff 🙂

So for now, mention your unmentionables. Do you wear shape wear? Do you wear it every day or just on special days? And when was your last Bra Fitting? And for any fellas reading, I heard there are shape wear tee shirts for men. Would you or have you worn one?

Happy Valentine’s Day: Dating a CAJT

February 14, 2012 |

In honor of Valentine’s Day my gift to you is the post you have been waiting for. It is oh so appropriate for today in a sarcastic kind of way. I have been looking for love, a Joy Chasing partner of my very own. However, my search continues. I know a princess like me may have to kiss a lot of frogs before she finds her prince. This post is one of those toad tales. I wrote this post a few weeks ago. But as I mentioned in my post, 30 is The New 20 But Not For You, right before I hit publish I got scared of the possible repercussions of the subject of the post reading it and freaking out as he clearly possessed crazy tendencies. But as a few weeks have gone by and I don’t believe I am being stalked, cyber or otherwise. I am hitting the publish button. If you have a Valentine this year let this post fill you with the Joy of know you are no longer in the dating game. If you don’t have a Valentine this year let this post fill you with the Joy of know you are not alone in your search for love.

Here is a post that will make all of you married Joy Chasers happy you are no longer a part of the dating scene.

I have menteioned in a few other posts that I am single and looking. While being in a relationship is not a prerequisite for Chasing Joy, I do think it is a journey that would be much more fun shared. So I have been making an effort to find my Mr. Joy Chaser. I’ve mentioned to friends that I am looking to meet new people, have been going out more often, and have joined a couple of dating sites.

I have never made a love connection via online dating. But, I have met some really nice guys that I still keep in touch with. So, overall I have had pretty decent experiences with online dating. That is until this weekend.

A month or so ago I was browsing a dating site that I am a member of and came across a profile that I found intersting. I sent him (who will be known as CAJT – Crazy Ass Joy Thief for the remainder of this post) a message and he responded with a message of his own. After a few days of emailing we exchanged numbers and CAJT and I began talking and texting regularly. He SEEMED nice, stable, responsible and not at all like a Crazy Ass Joy Thief.

We had our first date. Just a bite to eat at a mutually agreed upon location. I drove myself. I was taken aback by how shy he was but over all it was a decent date. We had our 2nd date. That one had more of a rough start. He got lost and was really late arriving at our agreed upon location. When he finally arived we enjoyed a quick bit to eat and then a movie. After the movie we walked the mall and he earned a few bonus points by buying me the book I needed to read for my book club. That’s definately not the actions of a CAJT.

There were a few weeks between our second and third dates as we had Christmas and then New Years occupying our time. On the third date CAJT decided to come out of his shy shell and reaveal his true crazy self. I’ll save some time and not give you the full blow by horrific blow and only high-light or should I say low-light the worst parts of the date includeing the big reveal of a whole lot of crazy.

Because CAJT and I had communicated quite a bit and been on two decent dates I felt comfortable with him picking me up. He was two hours late. I had just text him canceling when he said he was at my house. I went because I was still dressed and he was right outside. (I’m glad I went because if I hadn’t I’d still not know he was CAJT). He did not plan the date well and I ended up suggesting a bowling alley for us. The car ride conversation revealed that he was a bit too conservative (for my liking) regarding gay people and white people adopting black chlderen. FYI, me and CAJT are both black. During bowling he was not friendly at all to the people in the lane next to us. He was also way too quiet. Needless to say I was already feeling like me and CAJT were not really a good match. As we were leaving the bowling alley he opend up his mouth and the Crazy came pooring out!!!

CAJT revealed that he is a member of a group that studies Ancient Egyptian Mysticism. He said he’d had to be initiated to join, they spend their meetigns handing out pamphlets and “propagating”, and that the group helped him with his spiritual studies and focus. He meditated using CDs they provided which help him to focus so he could get a better job and not have to “WORK FOR THE BEAST” that’s right he said “THE BEAST” he clarified that by the beast he ment The Devil. He continued on to say America along with Europe, China, and India are all “EVIL”. He further confirmed his craziness by explaining that he used his mind to practice “PSYCHIC WARFARE” which helped him repelled evil forces.

Now you understand why he has so rightfully earned the title Crazy Ass Joy Thief. Needless to say I will not be seeing him again. Now I am just sorry I gave him my address to pick me up 🙁 He seemed to uderstand later when I explained that our spiritual values were too different for us to be compatible. So I don’t anticipate any trouble from CAJT.

Now I’m left feeling like maybe it’s time for me to take a little brake from trying to find Mr. Joy Chaser. Is this the Universe’s/God’s way of telling me to stop trying to force it, that love will find me and I don’t have to look for it? What do you think Joy Chasers? Did you find your joy chasing partners when you were or were not looking? If you are single and looking like me have you ever had a date as bad as this one? If so please tell me about.

Wordful/Wordless Wednesday Blogalicious Photos and HBBBS Giveaway Winner

December 21, 2011 |

So I am all done dropping Blogalicious knowledge on yall. So today I’m going to do a wordful/wordless Wednesday post and share my pictures from the conference. And of course I’ll let you know who the winner of the HBBBS Giveaway.

The Blogalicious Main Conference Room Podium

Our Gracious Hostesses @JusticeNy and @JusticeFergie

Me and My Blog Idol @Dumbparent

A wild crowd at Blogalicious!

Getting schooled during one of many panel discussions.

Celebrating More Birthdays with the American Cancer Association

Holding back tears singing Happy Birthday wishing I’d had more Birthdays with my dad who died from Cancer complications.

Looking fabulous fter my @Covergirl Queen Collection makeover!

Bloggers getting their grove on!!!

Me and Bloggie Friend @RosesDaughter

After my interview with @DigitalSisterhd.

Playing with props at Blogalicious!

Me and bloggie friend @TheYoungMommy

Table setting at the Susan G. Koman Pink Slumber Party.

Getting inspired by @iamjessejones

Making new bloggie friends with @LaWitchesBrew

Me and Big Daddy from the Food Network.

Now, what you have been waiting for… The winner of the HBBBS Giveaway and new owner or my Swag Bag contest is… drum roll please…. Ms. Positivity!!!!

There were 17 entries for the contest. Below are the results of the randomizor at random.org:

1.Ms. Positivity
2.Sarah
3.Ms. Positivity
4.Ms. Positivity
5.Optimistic Mom
6.Scenes From A Single Mom
7.Ms. Positivity
8.Cookie’s Mom
9.Scenes From A Single Mom
10.Ms. Positivity
11.Ms. Positivity
12.Optimistic Mom
13.Optimistic Mom
14.Ms. Positivity
15.Ms. Positivity
16.Mental Mosaic
17.Ms. Positivity

Thanks for entering the contest and sharing in my Blogalicious experience as I have recapped these past few weeks. Oh and be sure to follow all of these awesome Joy Chasers on Twitter.

Flashback Friday: Vacation Time

December 16, 2011 |

Happy Friday!!! Are you ready for the Flashback? Bloggie friends have you picked out you post for the linky? Joy Chasers are you to find some new blogs to checkout? Flashback Friday is where we Flashback to our older posts and linkup here. We also post a link to our Flashback post on the Chasing Joy Facebook Page. It is a great way to rediscover our earlier work and discover some new blogs.

Be sure to check out AT LEAST TWO other Flashback posts. Might I suggest the ones listed before and after your post. Please leave a comment saying why you selected your Flashback post and what you thought about the other Flashback posts. I’m looking forward to reading all of your Flashbacks.

I am not a travel lover. I like to visit new places but I just don’t like the actual process of getting there. The flying, the driving, the waiting in lines. But it is oh so worth it when you are on vacation!!! This week I am linking up to my post Vacation Time. In this post I talk about all the virtues of going on Vacation. When was your last vacation? Where did you go?

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Black Friday Flashback Friday: Random Thoughts- Image

November 25, 2011 |

Sorry I’m late Joy Chasers. Yesterday was Thanksgiving so I did not get the Flashback Friday post up last night. I hope you had a great Thanksgiving! I did. I cooked for my mom, brother, nieces, and nephews. There was 7of us all together. Good Food and Good Company.

After dinner my mom and I decided to go see what the stores were like. We have never done Black Friday shopping before. Since Walmart was opening at10 we decided to go and see what the hype was all about. We got to Walmart after 11. The store had been open for over an hour and the line was still at least a thousand people deep. So we never even got out of the car. We drove past shaking our heads in amazement.

Then we decided to drive up the road a bit and see how bad it was at Target. Target opened at Midnight. We got there around 11:30 and the line was several hundred deep. Better than at Walmart. We decided to stay in the car to see if people would run in when they opened the doors. 30 minutes later they opened the doors but let people in in groups of about 20 people every 90 seconds. There was no stampede and the line moved pretty quick. So, we decided to get in line to. We only had to wait about 20 minutes and we were in too. It was very organized and not crazy inside. No fighting or pushing. We only got a couple of things because we were there out of curiosity more so than looking for big deals on electronics or toys. It was fun and we were home by 3 am.

So a Thanksgiving feast and Black Friday outing distracted me from your Flashback Friday Linky. But, it is up now. Better late than never. I hope you will take some time between or after your Black Friday shopping and link up for the Flashback. Flashback Friday is where we Flashback to our older posts and linkup here. We also post a link to our Flashback post on the Chasing Joy Facebook Page. It is a great way to rediscover our earlier work and discover some new blogs.

Be sure to check out AT LEAST TWO other Flashback posts. I suggest the one listed before and after your post. Please leave a comment saying why you selected your Flashback post and what you thought about the other Flashback posts. I’m looking forward to reading all of your Flashbacks.
This week I am linking up to my post Random Thoughts – Image. In this post I talk about some of the things that make me feel good.

Don’t forget to grab the I am Chasing Joy button.

How was your Thanksgiving? Did you brave the Black Friday crowds???

Joy Chaser’s Guide to Surviving Visits from your Ex

June 1, 2011 |

10 Things to do/not do when your ex pops up unexpectedly at your door

1. Do be gracious and resist the urge to say what the #@c& do you want. That would not be very ladylike. Instead wait for him to explain his presence.

2. Do not step outside for conversation. If things go downhill there is no need to give the neighbors a show. Plus allowing him in gives you the opportunity to tell him to “Get to Stepping” in true Martin Lawrence style if he gets out of line.

3. Do not offer him anything to eat or drink. An unexpected visit from the ex is not the time to showcase those hostess skills. Save that for invited visits from new suitors 🙂

4. Do not inquire about his relationship status nor reveal yours. You do not care because he is an ex and your status is none of his business.

5. Do disregard number 4 if you have a fabulous new boyfriend (FNBF). Then feel free to say things like it’s a shame FNBF is not here or I’d introduce you, when FNBF and I were on vacation we…, FNBF and I just love it when… you get the idea.

6. Do feel confident about your looks, state of your home, etc… If you don’t feel confident; work on these things now before your ex pops up. If he pops up and you don’t feel confident this is the time to fake it.

7. Do inquire about the well being of relatives of the ex that you were fond of. It is not their fault they are related to ex.

8. Do not encourage any bonding between the ex and your pets. Also don’t freak out if pets seem happy to see ex. Said pets may go to ex for a rub or two but they know where their crunchies come from.

9. Do not! I repeat do not give in to any of your more carnal urges regardless of how much attraction there may be. Sex with an ex = bad idea.

10. Do be as sexy as you can without being obvious. It is fun to make him miss what he used to have. And it should not be too hard considering he’s the one who popped up at your door.

I used this top 10 list this weekend when my ex popped up. I survived his visit basically unscathed Joy intact.

Has your ex ever popped up at your door? What did you do or not do?