Over the years I have done a lot of online dating. One think I’d noticed was that unless I was on a website specifically for black people there would only be a few black men on sites like match and eharmony. (I think/hope that is changing). I never expected to run into a worse version of the same problem while trying to find a sperm donor. Where are all the black sperm donors???
Despite there not being many black sperm donors I managed to find one. It was not easy to pick him though. Here are some of the things a woman or family may consider when choosing a sperm donor.
- Ethnicity – some may pick a donor of their same ethnicity for obvious reasons while others may pick a donor of a different ethnicity to decrease the chance of certain genetic diseases.
- Age – some people prefer an oldefr or a younger donor for various reasons
- CMV Status – CMV is a virus like the common cold. You will not know if you have had it until your doctor tests you. If you are CMV negative you will want a CMV negative donor. While CMV is harmless if you get it it can be very dangerous to your baby if you get it while pregnant.
- Height, eye color, skin tone, hair color, – Some people want a donor who looks similar to them or their family so that the baby may look more like them.
- Medical history – If certain illnesses run in your family you may want a donor who does not have those same illnesses in their family.
- The donor essay
- The donor education level
There are many things you can consider when picking your sperm donor. Check out my video below to see what I took into consideration when choosing my donor.
I believe becoming a mom will be one of the most joyful experiences of my life. Choosing my donor is one step in the process. If you were to choose a sperm donor what criteria would you consider when choosing your donor?
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Getting a real education on this topic! I never thought you'd have to pay for sperm. Yes, it makes sense, but hearing that … hmm.
If I were choosing a sperm donor, I would consider medical history, donor education level, and possibly physical characteristics. I think being open to letting the child know the donor's identity when that child turns 18, that would be a plus. My race/ethnicity would be the child's.
I wish you continued luck and joy (wink, wink, lol) in this process. I admire how you stick to your wants. Write on!
(Can't resist the pun ;-D)
D7ana, I love the puns. Thanks for your continued support.
My pleasure 😉
LaShawn Wiltz says
Ok. SO I missed this part of the conversation!!! I had no idea!! Good Luck through this process! I can't wait to read more!
Thanks LaShawn. Hopefully we'll be talking about a pregnancy photo shoot in a few months.