Chase Joy By Making Your Home A Sacred Space and Keeping Joy Thieves OUT!
Recently I have seen some crazy things on Facebook. I have seen a girl switch finances within just a few weeks. Another girl posted saying she had a baby. Then she posted updates drinking and hanging out with no further mention of the baby. Crazy right! But by far the craziest thing I saw was several posts from a girl ranting about some relatives who she let move into her house. To say these house guests wore out their welcome is putting it mildly. Things really went south for this girl and her guests and police even had to be involved and then came the FB live rants.
Now I don’t know the details of what happened with this girl and her house guests. What I do know is that our homes should be our sacred spaces. Like with anything else that is sacred we need to safeguard it. We need to have guidelines for the care and protection of our home. The most important aspect of this care, protection, and safeguarding is who we allow into this sacred space.
As I watched this girl rant and rave on Facebook I thought to myself these people probably should not have been permitted to move in in the first place. Growing up I had friends visit my house often enough but they always went home. I did not really have sleep overs. I notice my parents also did not have a lot of friends over. When I talked with my dad about this he shared his point of view. He explained that our home was for us. That it was not good to have a lot of people in and out of your home. A visitor was fine but we should not have people outside of the family in our home on a regular.
Now that I have my own home I agree with my dad, though I do plan to allow my future child to have more sleepovers than I had growing up. I am very protective of my space. I want to be 100% comfortable in my own home. Any person or situation taking away from that has to go.
Like I mentioned before having a comfortable home environment is an important part of self-care. So, protect your space, guard your home, and be cautious about who you allow in it especially if they are planning to stay for a while. Chase Joy by safeguarding the sacred space that is your home by keeping Joy Thieves out.
Oh yeah, my home is my safe haven, so I am careful of the people who I let into my home, even for a quick visit. I totally agree with your advice!
I like that expression “joy thief.” It’s true the home should be a sacred space set aside for family. Some people sole purpose in life is to remain miserable no matter how good a situation will be and those are exactly the type of people to be cautious of letting enter your house, or even life for that matter.
My home is my safe place for myself and my family only. I don’t care what happens to others our home is not an option. Peace of mind is everything.
My home as to be peacefully or I’m on edge. In love your perspective thanks for sharing.
That’s one of the things I don’t like about Facebook is the drama! I agree with you about creating a home environment which is a place of joy and a sacred place. Your home should be your safe place away from the busyness of life and problems in this world.
This is so on point. When we moved into our new house, I left all the old behind. I wanted a fresh start and now my home is truly my sacred place. Anyone who comes to my home is a welcomed face. I’ve stopped inviting people in just because it is the polite thing to do.
It’s good to be selective with the people you let into your home I must agree though my African culture doesn’t really accept that
The home is still a private place and we should have good reasons to let people in
Ngumabi
N’Graffi
I had someone get downright angry .. fighting mad…with me because I could not accommodate living arrangements for their son.
I’ll pay for a hotel or even help them get on their feet..just not in my home..before I do that. I have a good heart but my personal comfort and sanity are more important to me. One night visits sometimes turn into long-term situations if boundaries are not set.
I thought later…the person was more upset with themself because they could not host and wished they could. Enjoy your memorial day weekend. Hugs and blessings.
Wow you read my mind. This has been on my mind a lot. I believe in personal space. When you let others into your safe haven it becomes less safe for you. People don’t understand when i try to explain this. For example we all have relatives and friends we love to be around but they have some people attached to them who are less than desirable. You know people invite tagalongs and that just can’t happen. No mam no sir.
People get real upset that. So it’s best to keep the circle all about you and yours. That’s when it’s best to host outside the home.