Yesterday was my 35th birthday. I cannot believe I am thirty-five years old. I feel more like 26 or 27. I do not feel like I am in my mid thirties.
I have never had a hard time with my birthday. I actually love my birthday and make every effort to have a great time celebrating it. This year was no different. I went out with friends, went to see the ballet Swan Lake with my mom, treated myself to a day of from work, a spa treatment, birthday cake, and dinner out with my mom. Click here -> for pictures.
The only challenging part about getting older is that my life is not how I imagined it would be. I bet that most of you face that same challenge. I thought by the time I was 35 I would feel smarter, be in better shape, have more money, a more fulfilling career, a better house etc, etc, etc… I am already working on most of these things and actually feel pretty good about my progress even if i am not where I thought I’d be. The two big things that I do struggle with as I get older are that I thought I would be married and have children by now. I never imagined I would be 35 with no love interest in sight. I never imagined I’d be facing the downward slope of my fertile years with no kids. I know I am a great person who will make a great wife and mother. It has actually pained me over the years that things have played out this way.
Now don’t get me wrong I am not giving up on finding love, on finding my Mr. Joy Chaser. I have just come to the realization that it is time for me to go to plan B. What is plan B? Well plan A was love, marriage, followed by the baby carriage. Plan B just involves switching up the order of things. Plan B is baby carriage, Love followed by marriage. Yes you read that right.
I think I explain it a little better in this video.
I have forever to find love and get married but I don’t have forever to become a mom.
Do you know any Single Mothers By Choice? Did you decide to become a mom before you decided to get married?