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Beware the Joy Thief

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Beware the Joy Thief

They are all around us. They look like us, talk like us, and dress like us. They are at our jobs, schools, even our churches. The are our family members and sometimes our friends. They blend in and are often hard to spot. But, there are signs.

 

 

    • They always have something to complain about

 

    • They always have a reason for not attempting to change negative situations

 

    • They constantly need support but never offer it

 

    • If you have a problem they always have a bigger one

 

    • If you have a goal they are quick to point out the obstacles in your path

 

    • They discourage others from pursuing goals, taking chances, or making change

 

    • They often talk more than they listen during conversations

 

    • Even when they ask your advice they don’t take it and have a reason they know it won’t work

 

    • They are very critical and quick to judge others

 

    • They are overly concerned with things like clothing, status, and gossip

 

    • They are not trustworthy or consistent

 

    • They are more than willing to promote themselves at the expense of others (even those they call a friend)

 

    • They do not keep their word

 

    • They are pessimistic and quick to see the negative in every situation

 

    • They’d get an Oscar for playing the Victim

 

    • They often go by the names Hater, Backstabber , Two Faced of Fake

 

  • The most important Sign, You Always Feel Worse (tired, down, drained or stressed) after spending time with them.

BEWARE THE JOY THIEF!!!! They are everywhere. Learn to spot them and avoid them. Their condition is contagious and you can become infected.


How do you avoid and/or deal with Joy Thieves???

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  3. Girl…I am QUICK to get rid of the joy thief. Ain't nobody got time for all of that! When you surround yourself by this type of negativity, it ultimately has a negative affect on you and what you're trying to do.

  9. I certainly know these people. Over the years as I've matured I can better identify these types. I've done a great job of weeding those people out of my life.

  13. There are many who will try to steal your joy, I don't think they mean to, they are just pessimistic and have not found their own piece of happy. I always tell people they can be downers to me, negative but they won't steal my happiness or break me! Worked too hard to be positive!

  18. I have a few Joy thieves in my life and with my own mental and physical issues, they can be just too much for me to bear sometimes. I really want to make my life better, but I really think they purposely try to keep me off the good path.

  19. I hate it when people rain on my parade. It's good to have a list of what to look out for so we can politely avoid joy thieves.

  21. This is so true. I have had to let go of some friends that were always so negative. I need to have positive people around me.

  23. I sometimes think I am my own joy thief. I have a quick temper and have been making it a point to keep my joy each day by letting more things go and relaxing.

  29. I was on a trip with a joy thief recently. It left me with so much anxiety (and now I really know what to look for! I'll avoid joy thieves at all costs.)

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  40. Energy Vampires…that's what I've always called them. I don't remember who first gave them that name, but it's so true. The longer you're around them the more life they suck out of you.

    ON the other hand, its soooo nice to meet someone who is "chasing joy". What a great reminder of what we should and need to be focusing on. Thanks 🙂

    Oh…and happy SITS day!

  41. I so hear you!

    There's no way to avoid them. They're like the hydra. Kill one and two more grow.

    I try to defer them, though, by calling them out silently. Once you've called a hater by his/her name, you drain him/her of his/her power.

  42. Oh so so true. I have met a few of them in my time but have thankfully got rid of them before they infiltrated my life too much 🙂 Happy SITS day.

  47. I learned in my 30's to walk away from these people. Now in my 40's, I can spot them from a mile away. I am so much happier now that I am not dragging around their dead weight. Stopping by from SITS.

  50. I've had to cut a few people like that out of my life. It was just too draining. Unfortunately, my mother is one now. I can't just cut her out of my life. But I can limit the time I spend with her and make sure I'm taking care of myself. So that's what I do.

    Great post!

  51. You are so right. I have actually had to end a few friendships because of Joy Thieves. Good or bad, you usually rise to meet who you surround yourself with. Happy SITS day!

  53. This is great! The question also is, whose joy am I stealing? I can remember specifically in high school one day when my friend said to me, "You are always complaining!" It hit me like she had slapped me in the face b/c I didn't even know that I was, but I have never forgotten that. I have always been aware of it. It's so important to not be a joy stealer and to stay away from those who are. Prayer sure helps!

    Stopping by from SITS today! Happy SITS day!!

  55. Though I try to encourage people when they are down, there are those that, no mater what you say, will complain. I try to steer clear of those people! Thanks for the great reminder!

  56. How do you know my grandmother? Haha. That list fits her very closely. We've all learned to not let her bring us down. Great list. I may have to send it to a few people I know who have these negative folks in their lives. Happy SITS day!

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  70. I am not ashamed to say I use my children. When I encounter a joy thief I always have to go and do something for or with my children. In 13 years I will have to come up with a new excuse, but I am good until then.

  71. I like that name Toxic Folk as Bella named them – I try to avoid them as much as possible to stay positive. It's not always easy when you are surrounded!

  72. great post. I learned to trust my gut, God and be the best that I can. If I am getting advice from someone I want to make sure that the person practices what he/she preaches. If my drama antenna goes up, I run like Forest Gump

  73. Great post and so true. Optimism and seeing opportunity instead of obstacles gets you so much further in life! 🙂

    Glad I stopped over from the Lady Blogger tea party! Have a great day.

  75. Thanks for stopping by to Chase Joy with me Bella, and Snowwhite. Glad you could relate to my list. Steer clear of the Joy Thieves in your life. 🙂 ~ Chasing Joy

  77. And ain't that the truth! Great post I call them the "toxic folk" mainly because they drain you of your energy and are full of toxicity! Sadly, family members are and can be toxic folks. I loved the "If you have a problem, they have a bigger one!" Popping over from the LBS.

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